By Gabbi Ramos
Throughout our high school experience, we find ourselves looking for who we want to be, what we want to be, and how we want others to perceive us. We get so caught up in trying to become someone, that we don’t really focus on who we are now. Sometimes, we put on a face for others, while we don’t genuinely feel happy inside.
How do you find authentic happiness and how honest are you with your feelings?
During the day, you might yourself thinking negatively. You bombed a test, you got in a fight with a friend, you missed practice, etc. It’s easy to slip into a negative mindset when everything seems to not be going your way.
What I have recently started doing is looking around me, at the very moment that I catch myself thinking negatively, and I count all of the things that I am thankful for at that moment. I take the time to appreciate the small things that make my day somehow easier or brighter.
Other students share that simple things such as seeing a smile on a friend’s face, a song on a playlist, or just a really good snack, make their day.
(Google survey response of 1 item that makes students happy)
Studies also show that negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. By finding something to distract yourself from negative thoughts, you can focus more on what you want to accomplish rather than the negative thoughts in your mind.
One issue that also prevents you from finding happiness in your day is not being honest about your feelings. If you feel like you are in a slump, talk about it. Don’t pretend that everything is alright. Those feelings will eventually build up, and you won’t be able to become the person you want to be.
If you can’t find something that will make your day brighter, talk to a school counselor.