By: Nakaiya Alston-Hardnick
By Natalie Stephens
"A friendship is like a flower, it must be maintained until it becomes strong, and when it gets to that point, if you neglect it and don't make an effort to take care of it, it will slowly wither” - Samantha Goodwin
With friendships, if you don't care for and support them, they probably won't work out for long. But if you give friendships attention and care about each other, it can turn into something special.
Poston Butte is a great place to grow and create friendships, not just for students, but for teachers, too. Ms. Alison Wood ,a Spanish 1 & 2 teacher, and Ms. Megan Cornille an Honors Algebra II and Honors Pre-Calculus teacher both met at Poston and have got to know each other for the past three years. They share a good professional work relationship and a great friendship outside of school.
When interviewing the two of them I asked what they thought was a healthy friendship, Ms. Cornille said, “ A healthy friendship is one that builds you up rather than tearing you down and one that is evenly give and taken; not something like one person constantly depending on the other, it needs to be balanced”.
Mrs.Cornille and Ms.Wood - picture submitted by Mrs.Cornille also Athena Lacoco and Ryan Bandelier- (picture taken by Natalie Stephens)
That's an excellent point because friends should mutually work together. Athena Lococo and Ryan Bandelier, both juniors, also met at Poston and have been a good support for each other, like when they go to track practice and help each other with school work.
When being in a friendship you're going to have good times. But with any relationship, you're also going to have disagreements and arguments. But strong friendships can deal with it and get through it because an argument shouldn't affect true friends.
Ryan said, “ Whenever we have an argument we just talk about it or we just forget about it, there's no point in arguing.”
So there's is struggles with being in a friendship and there's going to be really good times and that's the beauty of friendships, but they need work and no one said they would be easy, a good saying is “Strangers can become best friends just as easy as best friends becoming stranger's” - Unknown.
By Meghan Reynolds
When it comes to friends, everyone can claim they have them. However, there’s a fine line between a friend, and an acquaintance. What is that line? How do you cross it?
Have you ever suddenly found yourself surrounded by people you don’t entirely know? What’s more perplexing, is the fact that sometimes, you can’t recall anything about them. Their favorite colors, their favorite game, hobbies, anything.
In fact, if this is you, you’re not alone. There are many people who don’t understand what qualifies as true friendship. According to differencebetween.net, “acquaintances are those people who, even if you see them everyday, talk superficially with you.” Along with this, there may be gaps in presence, one-sided favors, and lack of personal space infiltration.
I sat down with Freshmen Jason Williams and Kyle Padilla, as well as Sophomore Paul Brown, and asked just what exactly made someone a friend, or an acquaintance. “I’m best friends with Jason, mainly because we’ve known each other since the third grade,” Padilla explains. Brown shared, “I’m acquaintances with Jason and Kyle, but I’ve known them for quite a while.”
I then asked if time had anything to do with relationships, to which the three all shrugged. “It’s not that time has anything to do with it,” Williams began, “you don’t have to be friends for a while to be ‘friends’.”
Savannah Salonis, Sophomore, had a bit of a different approach to this question. “Honestly,” she began, “an acquaintance is someone I don’t hang out with outside of school.” She shared that to her, friendship is the intimacy and ability to go to one another’s house, and consider each other family. If someone can’t make the time to meet up with Salonis after school,they haven’t crossed the threshold of a ‘friend’.
Similar to Salonis, Willie Valentine also vouched for the ‘hang out’ condition. “A friend is someone you talk to and hang out with like,” he paused, “85% of the time, and an acquaintance… probably 35%?” Valentine explains that the threshold between a friend is crossed when you make time for one another. “Whenever you walk in a hallway and call out to someone you don’t really know, it’s honestly just for a favor, nothing else.”
There are a few different ‘criterias’ for what makes a friend, and what makes an acquaintance. In all reality, it truly depends on your personality, and the willingness to bond with someone. To an acquaintance, you may be a friend, but to a friend- what are you really?
By Haley Brezina
Our teenage years are some of the most difficult years- we spend time trying to figure out who we are and who we have the potential to be.
High school is also a dating central. You know at least one person who complains about being single, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. The point is, having a significant other can be important. People want a connection with someone- they want someone to give their undivided attention to. It’s easy to get attached to people; and in some instances, the wrong people.
It can be argued wildly that teenage relationships aren’t even valid relationships, but even though it may not be real to others at times, it will always feel real to us. When people hear the word “abuse”, it reminds them of physical abuse. But one thing every human needs to know is; you don’t have to be hit to be abused.
It’s not easy to identify an abusive relationship. Especially when you have strong feelings for the person, you’ve put on the Love Goggles and they can do no wrong. One of the biggest questions when someone is trapped in an emotionally or verbally abusive relationship is, “why don’t they just leave?”
While everyone has their own reasons, one of the biggest issues for us as teens is believing that this abuse is normal. Most of us have never been in a relationship lasting for over several years, and none of us really know how a normal and healthy relationship functions.
Another aspect is guilt tripping. If you find yourself in a situation in which you’re being guilt tripped, take this as a red flag. Signs you’re being guilt tripped are: threats to do bodily harm if you leave, claims of “you’re all I have left” and “I cry myself to sleep”, or any graphic details about how much you’ve hurt them.
Zayne Wester, a junior, offers a piece of mind- “Kids become attached so easily. [Especially if their partner has a mental or physical illness], they feel the need to help them and that leaving them would make them feel worse”.
Paige Sorenson, a junior, also agrees with that aspect. “You have the fear that leaving them will hurt both you and them”, she states.
When it comes to trying to identify an abusive relationship, there are several red flags to look for. Sorenson states, “I feel like that if you have to think about whether you’re being abused is a sign you should leave. Both physical and emotionally abusive relationships are equally painful.” Granted, just because someone possesses one or more of these qualities does not immediately mean you are being abused or you are abusing them- abuse is consistent; it is a pattern of verbal abuse and manipulation. This being said, here are some things that can be a red flag to a bad relationship.
It is imperative you stay safe and be careful who you hand your heart to- Angie Godoy, senior, has a message everyone should remember; “You should not set yourself on fire to keep somebody else warm”.
By Kristin Dershem
Are you really in love or is your mind playing tricks on you? Some people think love is just a figment of one's imagination. How do we know the difference between love and like?
Sophomore Scott Knight said, “ There is a small difference between love and like. Only to the people involved, it has different meanings.” For example, Scott said he loves his [football] teammates and he would take a bullet for them.
When I asked Scott what love means to him he responded, “It's the point in between of loving someone and just being friends. Like is when you're trying to find out if you love them or not.”
I think love is an expression or feeling when the certain someone walks into your life and turns your life around. The one who makes you happy when you're sad or mad. The one who doesn't want to make you mad. He or she will do anything possible just to see your smile reach your cheeks.True love only happens once maybe twice in someone's lifetime.
There may be times where you think you're in love, but you're not.
On the other hand is a feeling of happiness when you think someone is cute or handsome. “Like” is just a temporary feeling though; you can't “like” someone for two years. After awhile you need to move on if that persona won’t “like” you back.
Is there really a difference between “love” and “like”? Both are feelings you get when he or she passes you.
“You don't need butterflies because you give me the whole zoo”, said Hailee Steinfeld.
Both “like” and “love” are feelings some people never or rarely get.
Love and like have differences though. Love is suppose to be forever and like is just a temporary emotion.
Most teens want to be liked or loved back. But as Spongebob says, “It's your imagination if your crush likes you back.”
By Natalie Stephens
When it comes to teachers, there is very little respect shown, even though they are the ones who help us with our education and get us through our teen years.
I was given the chance to interview teachers Mr. Wagner and Mr. Ho-Ching and Freshman Logan Ihrig about why there is little teacher respect and is there something that could be done to help this problem.
The disrespect that is shown towards teachers is sad and it needs to be acknowledged. Everyday, teachers plan lessons to help kids be successful, and many kids don't realize that or they just don't care. It is difficult for students who genuinely want to learn because too many students are disrespectful to the teacher or to classmates.
Logan Ihrig said, “ It's really annoying in class because it takes away time from learning and it's hard to get work done because they’re [disrespectful kids] the center of attention.”
But why are kids being disrespectful, and what could be done? Logan said kids are disrespectful because they just don't care or they don't want to be at school but that's not always the case.
Science teacher Mr. Wagner made a really good point when he said, “ It rarely bothers him when kids are disrespectful because they are discovering who they are, and kids have no filter.”
This may be true with younger students because kids may have not yet developed the skills know how to handle stress, anxiety, and other classroom aspects, so they lash out. Wagner also said about 99% of the time they're not doing it with intent, they just don’t have the right tools at that age.
In high school, you learn that you can make your own decisions but you can't choose your own consequences. During the high school years, kids are able to learn how to use the right tools to be able to handle certain situations.
Logan said, “There's definitely more people that are respectful than people who are disrespectful; so it's out numbered and the good outweighs the bad.”
This is a solid observation because usually when there's more of a positive influence, progress can be made. History teacher, Mr. Ho-Ching hopes, “The school could create an elective that could teach students how to cope and learn good skills.”
So what should you do when you witness a student being disrespectful to a teacher? Speak up and be heard. No teacher deserves this treatment, and students deserve a great place to learn.
By Gabbi Ramos
Throughout our high school experience, we find ourselves looking for who we want to be, what we want to be, and how we want others to perceive us. We get so caught up in trying to become someone, that we don’t really focus on who we are now. Sometimes, we put on a face for others, while we don’t genuinely feel happy inside.
How do you find authentic happiness and how honest are you with your feelings?
During the day, you might yourself thinking negatively. You bombed a test, you got in a fight with a friend, you missed practice, etc. It’s easy to slip into a negative mindset when everything seems to not be going your way.
What I have recently started doing is looking around me, at the very moment that I catch myself thinking negatively, and I count all of the things that I am thankful for at that moment. I take the time to appreciate the small things that make my day somehow easier or brighter.
Other students share that simple things such as seeing a smile on a friend’s face, a song on a playlist, or just a really good snack, make their day.
(Google survey response of 1 item that makes students happy)
Studies also show that negative emotions narrow your mind and focus your thoughts. By finding something to distract yourself from negative thoughts, you can focus more on what you want to accomplish rather than the negative thoughts in your mind.
One issue that also prevents you from finding happiness in your day is not being honest about your feelings. If you feel like you are in a slump, talk about it. Don’t pretend that everything is alright. Those feelings will eventually build up, and you won’t be able to become the person you want to be.
If you can’t find something that will make your day brighter, talk to a school counselor.
By: Haley Brezina
Photo credit: Haley Brezina
("Sam, born March 1999, and Justin, born July 2002 could be a cute couple- but should be careful when dating someone with such a large age difference.")
A year may not seem long- 52 weeks, 365 days; but those days make all the difference when it comes to high school dating.
When you’re in the same school with other kids who can be as much as four year older than you, it’s not uncommon for kids to date someone a grade or two ahead of them. While to some this may not be a big deal, but age plays a huge role in relationships.
From the younger person’s perspective, it may seem obvious why they may want to be with an older individual. According to Psychology Today, girls mature faster, as they tend to optimize brain connections earlier than boys. This would explain the most common younger girl/older guy dynamic.
Lexis Macie, a freshman, elaborates on her past relationship with a seventeen year old. Macie states, “[Older guys] have more experience and knew how to treat me better”. Macie also expresses that dating someone older than her is better than dating someone her age. However, the parent perspective varies from teen to teen. While Lexis’ parents didn’t have too much of a problem with it, sophomore Baylie Westervelt’s mother offers her view on Baylie talking to a senior.
Mrs. Westervelt is not at all fond of her 15 year old daughter being smitten with a 17 year old, but she is not going to hold her daughter back. “I don’t feel like I should be the one to say ‘you’re not doing this’. I can guide her through the relationship, like I would if you were dating someone your own age,” Westervelt elaborates.
However, it’s a different story from the older individual’s perspective. Isaac Green, a junior, provides insight on his past relationship with a freshman. “It was a two year age difference. Yeah, it kind of bothered me, but not that much since we really liked each other,”
In a relationship especially such as one as a junior/freshman one, these are two individuals with very different realities. A junior is preparing for their ACTs and SATs, maybe learning how to drive or just beginning.
On the other hand, a freshman is just getting used to the flow of high school, and is probably more focused on their social life. Westervelt agreed that goals may not be compatible; and Green also states, “Issues arose because he is a friend inclined freshman, meaning he was really friend oriented, while I just wanted to spend time with him”.
When it comes to dating someone younger versus someone his own age, Green admits it is easier to date someone his own age, but when you really like the person, it tends not to matter as much.
In the end, we’re all human beings looking for a special someone to share our time with. Dating someone older than you or younger should be taken with precautions- you should make sure you understand each other and are on the same level.
Having feelings for someone in a relationship is only a small part of keeping it safe and stable. Make sure you watch out for red flags, always listen to your parents and understand their concerns, never lie about your age, and never date someone 18 or older. The latter is very illegal.
By Gabbi Ramos
Happy Holidays from The Bronco Heat
(Photo Cred: Original Photo taken by Unknown Source and edited by Gabriella Ramos)
This holiday season, I’ve thought a lot about family. I know that I won’t be able to see a lot of my family this Christmas, which got me to wondering about everyone else.
During the holiday season, it is customary to gather with our family. It's a time, in which, we celebrate with the people that we are closest to. Although, most of us find ourselves lucky enough to spend time with everyone we love, some find themselves split between two families.
Here in our school, there are many kids who have unique home situations, but this doesn’t necessarily make their winter much different than the majority. To help everyone better understand the perspective of a teenager living within a split home, I interviewed three students, who were more than willing to share their side of the holidays.
Carolyn Brooks, a Junior, shares with me the perks of having divorced parents during the holidays.
“Having divorced parents surprisingly isn’t that bad during Christmas. There isn’t any fighting over who gets me on Christmas or anything like that. I also get two times the Christmas cheer, so I can’t complain.”
Senior, Blaine Blum, also shares, “I get to see more of each family. Double christmas dinner and presents.”
Bre Woeller, a Junior, adds, “It's hard around the holidays, especially since my real mother lives in a different state. We only get to see her ever so often, like maybe every 5-6 months. If we don't see her for holidays, usually she'll try to call my Dad, or send a text saying Happy Holidays, and how much she misses and loves both me and my little sister.”
Coming from a split family myself, I understood the concept of conflict between parents during the season. Curious to know if they had a similar problem, I asked Carolyn and Blaine if they ever experienced conflict with their parents.
Blaine shares, “For the most part, there isn’t that much conflict other than that there is a lot of back and forth between houses, but we’ve all gotten used to it. I think that the worst part of it all is having to choose who I want to spend Christmas with.”
Carolyn also shares a similar situation.
“I live with my mom, so I spend Christmas primarily with with her. Although, sometimes I feel bad that my dad doesn’t get to see me Christmas day. They don’t really fight, because they divorced when I was really young, but I sometimes I wonder what my dad might be doing when I’m gone.”
Although Carolyn and Blaine don’t face much conflict during the holidays, Junior, Bre, shares her side of the story.
“The best and actually worst part of this time of year is being around the family. I know that sounds bad, but I can explain. I love being around my family, I love them to death, but there's always some kind of issue to spark an argument somehow someway.”
She explains to me what she is hoping for this Christmas.
“I truly do miss my mother. It's been rough without her around all the time or seeing her every other weekend like we used to do before she got arrested.I'd love to see her for Christmas. That'd be the best Christmas present ever. Seeing her would make me actually enjoy Christmas.”
With such a joyous time of year, it can be easy to miss the ones who are closest to you, especially when you see other families happy together. Thing is, you’ve got a whole school to celebrate with. One big Bronco family. So, as much as it might be hard this holiday season, here at The Bronco Heat, we wish you Happy Holidays.
By; Lillian Spires
The opposite sex will never understand the opposite sex. We are different for a special reason which is to be reverential towards the other sex.
Students don’t realize that our generation has changed us on how we see the other gender. Males in females will judge the other gender on what they're wearing, how they look, what color they wear, the type of bag they use for their school work,
In the wrestling sport, there are women to participate and some males are not ok with that. Some females say they men should not play volleyball because that is a feminine sport. A dance instructor, Melanie Hart, states, “There are 4 males in my ballet class and 9 females yet we all see each other equally and there is no judgment”. She is saying that it does not matter if the person is male or female and what they like doing if it is, “Meant for the female”.
Most of the time, people do not even realize then they are being sexist. They will make comments about someone and not look around and someone will get offended by this comment.
Girls are not just the maid of the house and family. Some husbands expect to come home to a clean neat home. When a mother is a stay home mom and has young children, they might not have the time to clean all day or finish the dishes, make dinner, do the laundry.
Men do not have to always work and pay the bills, The mother or female can work too, women are fully capable of going to work in the morning and coming home.
Women have the same right to be in a military position as men, Males have more opportunities and hold more jobs in the military field. Women still can not join the SEALS area in the military.
When you go to the doctor's office, 70% of the time, your nurse will be a female. Some people think that having a male doctor is odd or they are not as kind as the female nurses. This is the same issue with a female surgeon. Most of the time, you will get a male surgeon.
Being sexist is usually a negative impact on your reputation and it is not the best choice. When you are a female, you do not understand the male mind. When you are a male, you do not understand the female mind. Each gender is capable of doing the same thing. But in certain things, women or men have to try harder to achieve that thing the other sex is able to do.